Shame, Guilt & Vulnerability

Overcoming the Cycle of Shame

​Shame and guilt are often mistaken for the same thing.  They are not.  Guilt is mostly useful.....it can guide is in where we may have broken a boundary or violated one of our values.  Mostly, we can put guilt to rights - we can learn from it, vow not to do that guilty thing again and apologise if its appropriate.  With guilt, we have done something wrong.  With shame, however, we feel we ARE wrong.

Shame is toxic.  It isn't useful.  It leaves us feeling 'less than', inferior, vulnerable, unloveable and unworthy.  Messages of shame are sometimes felt during childhood, especially in co-dependent or abusive homes, or perhaps where our parents themselves felt toxic shame from their own childhoods.    Addictions are often perpetuated by the "cycle of shame".
Angela is an experienced psychotherapist who believes toxic shame to be the most debilitating emotion, over and above all others.  It stops us having healthy relationships, with others and with ourself.  It hinders physical health, careers, self-worth and confidence.  Angela has found many issues brought to her clinic by clients have their origins based in shame - for example, addictions and co-dependency in relationships, low self-esteem and self-care issues.  She's worked with many survivors of abuse and those suffering toxic shame.  

If you wish to talk further or book an appointment, email Angela or call her on 07736 480 376.